Silent Partner

I have recently become a bit of a fetlife fetishist. I really enjoy the site for various reasons and even though I don't have many friends(ok I have one - I don't like to think of myself a pathetic just picky) the site offers me a feeling of camaraderie. I enjoy reading various forums and seeing that there are other people, subs particularly, who deal with some of the same battles I find myself often dealing with. (for example - wanting a discipline relationship but also hating it at the same time cuz- yup you guessed it- discipline spankings hurt! But they also make me closer to the person I truly want to be)

One thing that I have noticed alot on various profiles is submissives or slaves requesting,if not demanding, that people speak to their Dominant and attaining their permission before speaking to them. Now I personally don't understand that. Maybe some of you will disagree but let me explain why I feel this way.

What is the real purpose? Is it so the dominant can keep tabs on who his/her submissive is chatting to? To be honest that's what comes to my mind. And if that is why cant they just trust their submissive to make sound judgements on who to chat to or to at least ask them if they are unsure? I feel as relationship should be built on trust whether it's vanilla, between a Master and slave, a Dominant and submissive, or any of the many others. It just seems to me that making someone attain permission from another person to speak to you seems like there is a breakdown in the trust somewhere.

My husband would never ask such a thing of me but then again he trusts me to use my mind (I didn't lose the ability to think when I became 'his') and to make sound, adult decisions on who I chat to and what I choose to share with that person.

Maybe it's just me but submissives that have to have their potential 'friends' approves by their Dom seem like a silent partner in the relationship...