Do any of you sit and wonder if any of your friends are into TTWD? Or maybe I'm just an oddball...
I have two couples that I often wonder about- one I have known for years and the other are more of acquaintances. The couple I have known for years are somewhat kinky but I'm just not sure where the kink lies. The man in the relationship is oozing with domliness and if he isn't one I'm pretty sure he missed his calling in life. The second couple give off a subtle D/s feel and once again the husband just comes across domly. Though I'm not sure if this is due to their cultural background and religion.
This brings up a few questions.
1. Do you have friends you wonder about?
2. Would you ever ask said friends if they were into such activities?
3. Do you think some people are more prone to submissive and Dom roles due to their culture or religion?
My personal answers are: I have seriously considered asking the wife in couple 1. She's laud back, fun and open-minded about stuff. So I feel pretty confident that if they arent into it she won't judge me. Now I'd never approach couple 2 but think I'll still watch them from a distance and wonder.
As for culture and religion I'm not sure what, if any, role they play. ( I'm talking consensual and not men just beating their wives because they are considered second class) I think I'll wait and see what y'all think on that one.
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1. Do you have friends you wonder about?
I wonder about all of them. But there are really very few (outside the official BDSM world) that give off the vibes.
However, I do notice the attempted power plays in the vanilla world. It's often pretty obvious that many people relish having a dominant position, and some just seem to enjoy being dominated.
I suspect this is usually not so much a conscious choice on the part of the more submissive crowd. And, for the dominant, I suspect it would help enormously if they had a real dom's perspective on it. Perhaps they'd handle the responsibility in a more positive way.
2. Would you ever ask said friends if they were into such activities?
Probably not, unless they made it obvious in some way that they were interested. The risks are just too high. I suspect it could ruin not just the relationship but my reputation.
Better to locate friends through the community.
3. Do you think some people are more prone to submissive and Dom roles due to their culture or religion?
There are definitely some cultures that favor male dominance more than others. And one only needs look at all the blogs by people (mainly women) in LDD or CDD relationships to know that certain sects of Christianity push male dominance pretty hard.
But I think it's a bit worrisome that a society might push a certain type of D/s agenda. This becomes a kind of coercion at a certain point. I think it would be distinctly unattractive to live in a society where the sex roles were so strictly kept that citizens didn't really have any choice.
Our society in the U.S. still has a strong male bias, but it gives women enough freedom that they are not compelled to find a man to rule their lives. That makes it all the more wonderful when a woman desires it of me. I appreciate the sacrifice and humility involved because I know it's freely given and not just done out of obligation or fear that she might be ridiculed by her neighbors if she didn't give it.
There's a delicate balance between freedom in society and the degree to which private submission can really work. Giving one's self in submission is an act of love, and love is bleached out if it's coerced by external factors.
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